Females who are engaged in sexual activity may desire sensation. This sensation, known as an orgasm, is ordinarily a product of sexual intercourse with a partner. Studies exhibit the significance of the female orgasm, as well as the lack of confidence some women may experience when engaging sexually.
Some individuals consider the need to connect to their sexuality a primary step in becoming sexually confident. In her Bustle article “Easy Ways To Be More Sexually Confident, According To A Sexologist,” Kristine Fellizar explains sexuality’s connection to human behavior.
“Sexuality in the context of human behavior is something that has implication rooted in one’s physical, mental, emotional and spiritual balance,” Fellizar explains. “It is a part of our everyday decisions whether we are conscious of it or not.”
Sometimes, women feel self-conscious about their sexual lives which influences their behavior. While some women may experience moments of low self-esteem, an important aspect to increasing sexual confidence is the ability to love oneself.
A positive, healthy relationship starts between a woman and her body. After finding herself increasingly comfortable and happy with her body and body image, a woman’s next step is to find someone who can love her for who she is.
In her GQ article entitled “How to Inspire Sexual Confidence,” Christina Wellor describes what tends to occur during an intercourse exchange.
Wellor writes, “Men have a sense of pride in fulfilling their fantasies, in giving and receiving sexual pleasure. Women often need a little encouragement before they let go.”
In agreeance with Wellor, Fellizar adds to describe the importance for a woman to enjoy the sexual exchange that is occurring.
“We must dispel this myth by continuing to have these conversations and step out of the role of being the ‘pleaser’ to that of being pleased,” Fellizar describes. “At the end of the day, if you don’t enjoy what’s happening in your bedroom you have all the power to change it!”
While in some cases women may feel uncomfortable to speak while in the bedroom, a woman must speak up for herself if she feels uncomfortable or is unhappy with her role during the exchange.
In addition, as detailed by Wellor, a sufficient amount of a woman’s confidence whilst engaging in an act of sexual intercourse comes not only from her partner complimenting her, but also the physical position she is in.
While some men may keep their internal thoughts to themselves, they are in fact encouraged to verbally describe what a woman does well. To speak on behalf of some uncertain, curious females, Wellor encourages men to be honest with their partners.
“Never assume women can read your thoughts… If you see something you like, tell her… Don’t be coy about registering your approval both with words and body language: the more obviously into it you are, the more she’ll respond and give back.“
For any woman who chooses to engage sexually, she is encouraged to connect to her inner happiness and allow this positivity to radiate. Feel confident, act confident and be confident.